20 Questions for a Couples Therapist

Finding a couples counselor who aligns with your needs and preferences is crucial. Here are some questions that can help you in this process. Remember, your choices matter the most.

Let’s dive in! This is a list of questions I have been asked during the initial phone consultation:

1. What can we expect in couples counseling?

2. How long do couples stay in couples counseling?

3. What is your style?

4. How do you handle couples who find themselves in constant disagreement?

5. We are so different. Is it even possible to get on the same page?

6. How do you handle situations when partners get stuck?

7. Do some couples get divorced as a result of couples counseling?

8. Could you tell us a little bit about the Gottman Method?

9. How is the Gottman Method different from other approaches?

10. What do you like about the Gottman Method?

11. Do you use other approaches?

12. What do you like about being a couples counselor?

13. How do couples get better?

14. Do some couples NOT benefit from couples counseling?

15. Can you predict divorce?

16. Do you tell people they need to divorce?

17. What do you think couples appreciate about you or about working with you?

18. One of us has a mental health condition. Do you have experience working with clients who have this condition?

19. One of us had an affair. Do you work with couples who have experienced betrayal?

20. What are our next steps?

Pick and choose what is relevant to you and find the right couples counselor for your relationship. Read “5 Essential Questions to Ask a Couples Therapist on an Initial Phone Call.”

Do you have any questions about couples counseling or the Gottman Method? Please email me at tmatyukhin@tmatmcs.com